My First, Second, & Third Attempts at Parenting:Discovering the Heart of Parenting by Steve Murrell-BOOK REVIEW


*Disclaimer: I was gifted a copy of the book My First, Second, & Third Attempts at Parenting: Discovering the Heart of Parenting by Steve Murrell courtesy of Church Strengthening Ministry, Inc. in exchange for my honest review. The views and opinions expressed in this post are my own and do not necessarily represent the postings, strategies or opinions of the author and publishing company. 


I will cut to the chase- this book that I’m about to recommend to you is worth reading.

I guarantee that every page is exceptionally narrated by a father’s own experiences and personal reflections while navigating the path of parenthood not once, not twice, but thrice.

The author began telling that the ultimate purpose of this book is to honor God and make disciples. He reiterated it at the last chapter by saying “Living all of life to please God is how we discover the heart of parenting.”

“Living all of life to please God is how we discover the heart of parenting.” - Steve Murrell… Click To Tweet

The emphasis is apparent for those who embrace the lordship of Jesus Christ in every area of their lives and that includes parenting.

“Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?” Luke 6:46 (NIV)

God’s Word gives very specific instruction in every area of parenting. Yet, many parents ignore these commands and try to replace them with principles based on ungodly parenting resource.

In the first part of the book, I love the topic about no regret parenting. This advice is very close to my heart because I need to be reminded over and over again that my higher calling is to shine brightly for my children and lead them to righteousness. It is very important for us parents to define our roles according to God’s standard. Because God never intended for life as a Christian to be easy and so is raising godly children.

“Those who are wise will shine like the brightness of the heavens, and those who lead many to righteousness, like the stars for ever and ever.” Daniel 12: (NIV)

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Our heavenly Father knew it would be challenging to endure the opposition of this world.

He knows the struggles we go through when we need to apply the appropriate discipline for our children’s disobedience.

He sees our frustrations when doubt and confusion eats our inner peace.

He hears every weep during despair when we lose our confidence to make our home a sanctuary of love and peace.

He tames our fears during danger, sickness, and trials.

In the second part of the book, the author tells a very valuable insight on how to understand God’s heart. That God desires His children to seek a growing, meaningful, and personal relationship with Him.

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I love the story of a woman who keeps on receiving a huge bouquet of red roses every Valentine’s Day when she was still single. Nobody in her colleagues at work knew who she was dating at that time so the loving gesture of her secret admirer was such a puzzle to them. The truth remained a mystery until the right time came to finally confessed that those flowers were being sent by a married man.
The identity of this married man was none other than the woman’s father!

The father wanted to express his love and adoration to his unmarried daughter by remembering her and sending her flowers. This father’s tender way of loving his child is the same as how God rejoices in blessing us through his unconditional love.

I was very inspired with that father-daughter story so let me share my own…

Since year 2012, every Valentine’s Day my husband Alvin would take our daughter out to dinner. They would eat at their favorite restaurant and spend the rest of the evening talking and mall strolling. He wanted to spend Valentine’s Day with our teenage daughter as much as he could while our daughter is still young, unmarried, and there is no other “admirer” than her daddy.

My husband also gave our daughter her very first ring. It’s a Valentine’s Day surprise gift for her. He told our daughter that it is a reminder of his love and devotion to her. And for as long as she wears that ring, she will always be his little princess and he is always there to protect her. The ring also serves as a symbolic hope that God is the One who will bless her with a loving man in His perfect time just as God has blessed her with a loving father.

My daughter is always looking forward to bond with her daddy every Valentine’s Day. She declared that February 14 is dedicated only for her father. I am beyond blessed to have a wonderful and kind-hearted husband. He made himself a commitment to create memories with our daughter and made her feel how to be loved, respected, admired, and valued. I pray that God will honor my husband’s effort in imparting his legacy to our children.

The Bible is full of hope and promises of God to guide us and gives us peace when we cannot comprehend the parenting process. All we have to do is surrender to the Greatest Father we have.

This is also our chance to model obedience to our children by keeping God’s commandments. If we check our progress as a parent by biblical principles, we are making the best decisions for our children. Our home will be a place of success if we lead them in the right direction.  This doesn’t mean our parenting will obtain a Pinterest-perfect image. It is an assurance knowing the grace of God comes to us despite our mistakes as a parent or despite of our children’s sinful nature.

At the final part, Steve Murrell gave insight on the parent’s responsibility to raise morally responsible and biblically responsive children. 

Our greatest role as parents is to teach our children about Jesus Christ and the gospel. Our child’s best chance at finding Christ begins at home. Discipleship at home is the cornerstone of teaching children about biblical truth and establishing a personal relationship with God. Ask for the Lord’s guidance over your children’s decision to trust Him as their Lord and Savior and may they serve Him all the days of their lives.

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Parenting has never been easy. i thought i will soar above the sky of parenting realms when i keep being a “cool mom”. foolish me, it’s not that easy…

and IT IS NOT RIGHT EITHER…

I confessed that I struggle every day in a specific area with my youngest child who has developmental disorder.  In my quest to raise godly children, I’ve learned to seek help from the Lord as often as possible. I also seek the counsel of wise people-through friends and Christian books. Regardless if your parenting is smooth-sailing or rough, whether you are a new parent or old, we must remember that God has entrusted our kids to our care for a short season. He will ultimately reward us for our diligent work- if only we are willing to discover the heart of parenting!

About the Author: Steve Murrell is the president of Every Nation Churches & Ministries and also serves on the board of the Real LIFE Foundation. Steve has authored six widely successful books. Visit this website to know more about the author.

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2 thoughts on “My First, Second, & Third Attempts at Parenting:Discovering the Heart of Parenting by Steve Murrell-BOOK REVIEW

  1. Tammy says:

    What wonderful encouragement for parents, this book review, the quotes, and your article are !! I LOVE the pictures and personal story that you shared about the special yearly tradition that Pinky and her father share. May lives be inspired and encouraged by your openness and work, shared here. Love in Christ, Tammy @ Grandma Mary Martha

  2. Alvin Fabian says:

    Wow! 5 years of enjoying my Valentine’s Day date with my own daughter is amazing! And will keep on celebrating it with her! I love this post, it reminds me of my personal commitment with God to be the best parent as I can.

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